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Can These Bones? A Reflection on Pentecost

5/25/2018

by Mother Brenda Sol

“To reveal God’s love by nourishing the community through worship, acceptance, and service.” --St. Andrew’s Mission Statement--

A mission statement encapsulates, and reminds us, of our values as a community. The values we identified as core to who we are as a parish include:

We are an open and welcoming community.
We love and serve our neighbors together.
We care for each other as family.
We joyfully live out our faith, grounded in the Gospel.
And, we celebrate the journey!

I had been thinking about our core values in relation to Pentecost ever since I read an article from a podcast called “Can These Bones.” I can’t remember where I came across the report, but, of course, with a title like “Can These Bones” it caught my attention because I knew we’d be reading about “dem bones” in the Ezekiel passage on Pentecost Sunday.

As I read the interview with the Executive Vice President of Jet Blue Airlines, I got really excited about how the mission statement of a company in the for-profit world was so similar to ours in the not-for-profit world. Both statements are about making a difference in the world.

The Jet Blue mission statement can be boiled down to two words: Inspiring Humanity. And the airlines very consciously intend the double meaning: both “inspiring humanity,” as in their actions inspire the rest of the world, and also “inspiring humanity” in terms of taking actions that inspire others to do things that are humane, just, true, and respectful—“inspiring humanity.”

In that article, the Jet Blue executive talked about how not only do all the employees—from the cleaning crew to the cabin crew—have the company’s core values memorized, they are empowered to take actions that might go against protocol, if those actions would better live into the company’s values. So, for instance, after the shooting at the Pulse nightclub in Orlando a few years back, Jet Blue offered free travel for families of victims, back and forth from Puerto Rico to Orlando. So while increasing the company’s bottom-line is surely a desired outcome, it is not one of their core values.

When we identified the core values of St. Andrew’s, we were coached to think about what we would keep doing as a parish—as the body of Christ—even if we received negative criticism for doing so. Jesus might not have ever mentioned the words “core values,” but he certainly embodied and modeled for us the kinds of risks one ought to take when living into “kingdom values.”

Even though his actions did not win Jesus popularity contests with those in charge, he healed people on the Sabbath, he sat with the other, he insisted that people in his company care for each other—even if they were strangers to each other, because, like Jet Blue employees, Jesus had been empowered to take risks in order to better live into the values of God that would inspire humanity.

The Ezekiel story we read on Pentecost reminds us that sometimes—although the values were there all along, we require new life to be breathed into us. So that breath might be a reclaiming of sorts. It’s not that we’ve been doing church wrong, but the fabric of our culture continues to change, so we dig down deep and we find the points at which more people can access Christ’s message, and we breathe new life into the bones of our parish.
Lately life is being breathed into a national movement called “Reclaiming Jesus.” The founding group is a couple dozen clergy from a number of different denominations—from Baptists to Methodists to Episcopalians—including Michael Curry, our current Presiding Bishop. The preamble to the joint statement of faith they created on Ash Wednesday quotes Martin Luther King Jr., who said, “The church must be reminded that it is not the master or the servant of the state, but rather the conscience of the state.”

The statement includes six affirmations, each of which is counterbalanced by a rejection. I’ll highlight a couple of them that follow the thread of our core values:

We believe each human being is made in God’s image and likeness. Therefore, we reject the resurgence of white nationalism and racism in our nation.
We believe how we treat the hungry, the thirsty, the naked, the stranger, the sick, and the prisoner is how we treat Christ himself. Therefore, we reject the language and policies of political leaders who would debase and abandon the most vulnerable children of God.

One of our vestry members was so moved by the statement that she traveled to D.C. to be a part of a prayer vigil the Reclaiming Jesus group held outside the White House this week!

I think that sort of stirring—that feeling that “I have to be a part of this!”—is what the sense of “astonishment” must have been for the people gathered on that day of Pentecost. It’s way more than that they heard their own language being spoken. That kind of astonishment comes in the recognition that the thing that’s happening is so much larger than us, and that we are included in it. That’s the whole point of Pentecost—to alert us, to remind us, to blow through us with a Holy wind that God’s values—God’s love—is for everyone…no matter the language they speak!

This is included in a couple of our core values:

We are an open and welcoming community.
We love and serve our neighbors together.

Just as Jet Blue has claimed they are about more than simply airplanes, they’re about making a difference in the world, we are not just about this building, we are BEING church out in the world—sharing kingdom values with all we encounter.

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In Defense of Mother's Day

5/9/2018

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by Paula M. Fitzgibbons

Every year at this time, blog posts and news reports appear begging mothers to consider all the people for whom Mother’s Day might not be a pleasant holiday. The growing trend is to request that mothers yield the day to those who have experienced loss.

I wonder if it’s because Mother’s Day holds its roots in feminism. Early incarnations included ancient Greco-Roman celebrations of the mother Goddesses and a day for mothers of opposing sides during the Civil War to reconcile. The more formal holiday grew out of feminist calls to action, the most renowned being Julia Ward Howe’s late 19th century request for mothers to unite for world peace.

It is indeed a helpful reminder that compassion and empathy for those who have experienced loss are two callings we should strive to fulfill. Must we do so, though, at the expense of celebrating the important values and lessons we learn from the women who came before us?

This especially presents a challenge for communities of faith, who traditionally celebrate Mother's Day with gusto.

I have been a motherless child. I spent over two decades estranged from my mother, who passed away just a few years after we re-united. I have also been a childless woman, desperate to enter motherhood. I spent years struggling with infertility and awaiting adoption. I understand how painful it can be around Mother’s Day to have images that evoke personal loss punctuate one’s time and space.

I also know, though, how affirming it can feel to have our families, friends, and faith communities celebrate motherhood each year. Perhaps faith communities should think twice before eliminating a liturgical nod to Mother's Day.

Consider the following:

1. Mothers in the U.S. are a marginalized population. It might not seem this way to people without children, who are tired of our double-strollers crowding sidewalks and our whining children disturbing their nights out (or to at least one woman who thinks that maternity leave should be available to women without children). However, U.S. mothers are regularly mommy-tracked in our careers. Unlike much of the world’s mothers and despite many of us requiring, at minimum, physical recovery time, we are not guaranteed pay for maternity leave. Child care is often prohibitively expensive for U.S. families, typically leading to one parent staying home. Since, on average, women are paid less than our male counterparts for the same jobs, it usually falls on women to sacrifice our careers if necessary to care for our children.

2. Father’s Day, the male equivalent to Mother’s Day, does not receive the same level of scrutiny and criticism. My Facebook feed isn’t filled each Father’s Day with calls to be more considerate of fatherless children and men who struggle with the loss of fatherhood. Father’s Day even holds the distinction of having been created largely so that fathers would feel included in celebrations of parenthood.

3. A day meant to celebrate women is the one secular holiday that U.S. Americans seem to want to micro-manage. There are various annual, secular holidays besides Father’s Day that celebrate a particular faction of people to the exclusion of others without the scrutiny held over Mother’s Day. When Veterans Day rolls around, those of us who are neither veterans nor closely connected with veterans step aside to allow the beneficiaries of the day to hold their spotlight. We even line up to participate in parades where we cheer on people we might not even know. Likewise, Valentine’s Day is typically considered for lovers, the crux of Halloween for children. Though we should never force pointed holidays onto those who don’t celebrate them, we can and do allow specific groups of people their special days.

4. The U.S. American calendar is filled with non-holiday events and experiences that provide opportunities for some to the exclusion of others. As long as exclusivity is not born out of bigotry, hatred, or support for inequality, this can be okay, even necessary. Non-runners, including those of us unable to run due to disabilities, typically do not begrudge runners their races, even though they close our roads and clog our neighborhood coffee shops several times a year. Adults don’t ask children to enjoy their school breaks less because we don’t receive the same amount of time off. We don’t request that college students avoid expressing their pride on social media about scholarships or other accolades they receive as academics, even though non-students don’t receive scholarships for general living. Everybody can’t be a part of everything, nor should we expect total inclusion.

5. More than any other group of people, it seems, mothers are constantly told how we are supposed to carry out our roles. We are given conflicting advice, backed by convincing, but also conflicting, science regularly. We are pandered to by corporations that want our money, criticized and prosecuted by legislators who want to control us, simultaneously demonized and deified by the media. Now we are being told to be careful about how we celebrate Mother’s Day because people who are not mothers, or who don’t have healthy relationships with their mothers or motherhood, might feel excluded. To be tossed into yet one more battle that divides and belittles us, a battle that few else are asked to enter with regards to other secular holidays, feels like another way to control women in general, mothers specifically.

Within a contemporary feminist context, Mother’s Day affords us one day a year when we can hope for a neutral zone, when mothers can support and celebrate one another, despite our culture’s insistence upon dividing us. It also offers families who choose to celebrate the day together a formal pause in family chaos to reflect upon mother/child relationships.

The concept of motherhood can be an emotionally loaded challenge for many people. I understand and have been there. I also believe that we can honor the losses surrounding mothers and motherhood within our culture while creating space on Mother’s Day for mothers and families of every incarnation to choose to celebrate motherhood as desired—inside and outside of faith communities—without fear of repercussion, guilt, and division.

A version of this post was originally published at mommymeansit.com.

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